Hello everyone! Who’s ready for a chilled out boost in the right direction? I sure am so I’ll be taking this all in beside you (Can’t promise I’ll stay quiet though 🤐😂). Its time to talk about how to start the new year properly! 💫 With this being my last post in the year 2020 I’m choosing not to look back. Why would I when that’s been the main focus anyway? Focusing on the year ahead is a much better option and that’s what it’s all about! (I sang that last bit like the hokey Pokey nursery rhyme when I read this back 😂).
Back when I came up with the idea for this post I remember feeling a refreshing wave pass over my mind and I’m hoping that that is what will come across as you read along. Perhaps it’ll sink in, causing you to feel good about where things are going! 👏✨
In 2021 we’ve been given something of a heads-up, unlike how last year we had no idea of what was to come. I mean yeah we’re not fortune tellers (if you are let me know, free session please? 😂) but we can go into the new year realistically aware that the unthinkable can occur all over again because we’re used to it now amiright? Well the option isn’t here to be wrong so I’mma say yes 😊😂.
In thinking this way I believe it is possible to maintain a steady outlook whilst harnessing the strength we built up in 2020. This is how we should see the world anyway so in the nicest way possible, we’ve just been slapped in the face and grounded (you were a space cadet and you didn’t even know it 😲😂).
Anyway, let’s not crowd this intro with unnecessary information. You turned up to take something moderately useful away and I hope that’s what happens. Here’s the good stuff, to start the year off properly you should:
• Have something to look forward to
This goes first because lately I’ve been a firm believer in it! I find that whenever you have something exciting ahead the bad times really do have to fight to affect you 🙌. I think it started back when we surprised my mum with a bouncy castle for her birthday 😂. Now I know that’s not always possible, it was a one off for her special day but I remember being amazed by how that single thing transformed a fragment of time and it didn’t feel like we were at home because it was just so different. Its was one of those times when I knew I was making a memory as it happened and I wanted more like it!
I was thinking that big moments like that don’t have to be waited for in order to have fun and enjoy time together. The fun can be brought to you and everyday should be made exciting, especially when it involves people that mean the world to you. You only live once (even if you come back as a butterfly you’re not 100% you as you won’t remember who you are right now 🤷😂) so why not create fun if nothing is on the horizon?
Even in smaller everyday bouts, have a long morning? Set aside time later on for a nice warm drink whilst you binge watch your fav series. Feeling unwell and not able to do anything right now? Know that a moment of relief will find your way and look forward to it, plan something just for yourself that will help build you back up again like an evening of indulging in motivational podcasts as now you’re more open to that through coming out the other side (in this way you’re looking forward to something that gives you more to go towards so your mind is being kept active + in growth mode even in times of dormancy 💫).
• Have a positive outlook but keep it realistic
The pessimist within will chant over and over again that there is no point in being positive but there’s certainly no point in being negative so why not be realistically positive? 😍😂 Of course it’s not always possible, we’re human but when the opportunity arises to have that choice do not and I repeat DO NOT let it go to waste.
Why go along with a feeling just because? If you have a say then make a change. Help yourself by introducing moments of self care that will hopefully stick for the long term and unconsciously (or is is sub?) enforce that good mindset by getting used to it 😄.
At least then you’re trying. If you can’t then let that moment happen, there’s no need to noticably force a perspective that isn’t ready to be felt. Treat yourself with respect and acknowledge your current boundaries, know that the bad nuggets within won’t always be there because you’re an ever growing bean.
Back to the point 😅, it’s important to be a smart type of positive when that is needed. If you’re happy and all is good then let it be but if you’re reading this in the current climate you’ll know what I’m talking about.
We need to let that happy mentality be there if it wants to because that is a rarity in itself but also take notice of particular things that could disable it. Not so as to bring your mood down but so that the positivity will last longer and you’ll be able to cope during a rough patch if at all necessary. Don’t lie to yourself, it can be done without even realizing it by setting stuff aside for later and that’s okay just so long as it doesn’t lead to a future daunting task. When you can, take it in now as every step you take is forward thinking because that’s the direction we walk in 🚶😂.
• Make plans
Similar to the very first thought but less of a one time thing! This time I mean plans that are ongoing, not only to keep you busy but also to help you grow! 🌱 (Before I meant stuff like exciting events to look forward to which is what half of this is but more so in a particular direction). We grow everyday, even in moments of stillness (it changes to metaphorical growth 😂) so don’t worry about not seeing it straight away but it’s always good to do things that will lead you in a good direction 👉.
Recently my way of going forward has been by accepting what I can and cannot do because of chronic pain. I’m growing by acknowledging what will make things worse, not overly wasting time dwelling on it and instead trying to look at what I CAN do in both short and long term.
I’m continuously learning how to pace and not overdo things. I won’t stay up if I know lying down will better me even if it does get me internally looking like a stroppy toddler that doesn’t want to be dragged up to bed 😂. Doing this spaces out the pain as keeping going does so in the worst way possible, why am I sitting around waiting for a miracle when deep down I know what to do? (I’ll leave that option open for when I’m at a loss 🙌😂).
Quite a lot of the longer term things will still be far off into the future despite working towards different things everyday but if you’re a regular here you’ll know I’m a lover of lists so in making these long-term plans, it helps me to feel more in control and sane 😌. Stuff like coursework and driving, fun things like redesigning a room and gardening 🌻. Yes I feel positive about things that I know are not going to happen for a while but I’m very excited that they’re on the horizon at all 🌅 and it’s things like that, that keep us all going ✨.
• Try not to have unnecessary expectations
I put “try” in there because an element of it is inevitable 😂. This was my thought process behind the post: Why I won’t have any new years resolutions in 2021. We’re in the midst of something huge and everyday we get closer to leaving it behind. The bad stuff shouldn’t colour our perception and not allow us to see good things that ARE happening. It’s important to not go overboard and try to have 2021 make up for the year we’re leaving behind as then we’ll surely end up back where we started. This is very similar to the point above about keeping positive with more of an emphasis on being realistic as then you’ll be less likely to get hurt in the long run.
• Surround yourself with uplifting energy despite darkness sat alone in the corner like 😑
What I mean is: watch, listen or read the news and take a mental note of what needs to be done during these trying times to keep safe but then step away and get on with things in the healthiest way possible (I know it’s not as simple as that but written word makes stuff look blunt, I didn’t intend for it to be that way 🤷😂).
These things can be all consuming but know that you have tried and are continuing to try to make things better. It’s all new ground that we’re navigating, there is a line between what’s right and what’s wrong physically but there’s also one mentally that could help us get through it. We truly need to give ourselves credit for the hurdles we journey through, not only when we reach the other side but along the way too. Every pitstop should be a finish line 🙌😂 after all, your power is in getting through to the other side so make it closer and not further away!
Surround yourself with things that bring you joy and get as close as possible to the track you were on before everything went haywire, even if it’s maintaining the idea that it’s truly what you want, you’re doing the right thing 🙌. Time doesn’t have to stop, you could sit still yet at the same time be taking steps towards a better chance of getting through this.
The world could be cheering you on but sometimes what you really need is for that same support coming from within. The best way to start the new year is by being your own best friend. Treat yourself how you treat others (nicely I hope or else that tip will go right over your head 😌😂) and maybe, just maybe the year could turn out to be better because of how we see it, not because of how it actually is.
Soooo what do you think? Can we make this happen? Is it even a group effort? I’ll rephrase it, can YOU make this happen? Life is not only as good as you make it out to be. Its better 😲. Don’t close off to that possiblity after all that’s happened because if anything, that chance is what you deserve ⭐.
Thanks for reading! 💞 This was really nice to type out, I’d written down some of it but more and more sprang to mind when I opened up the draft ⚡. I’d like to mention that I was going to call this “the right way to start the new year” (Because “properly” sounds way less condescending than that 🙄😂) but I changed my mind almost instantly as there’s no one way to do it.
We’re all living our own lives and with that comes different routes of going about it and getting by. This is simply a list of helpful guidelines laid out with the best of intentions 😉. Be sure to share more things that you think are good when moving forward into a new year! 💌 It all goes a long way and you never know who could need to hear it. I hope you have a wonderful day and I’ll see you again very soon ✨ Take care 😊❤️.